Art by selkie (@sealporium)
Humans are meant to function in tribes. If you can't function in a tribe, you are a bad human. That doesn't mean you need to function in every tribe, though. Some tribes just suck. Some tribes don't protect you, don't reward you, or worst of all, don't teach you anything. Sometimes that's because the tribe is overrun with corrupt, antisocial elders. Sometimes it's because the tribe just doesn't like you. The answer is not to obsessively search for the perfect tribe. You'd be searching for a long time. Instead, take a practical approach: Think less about what the perfect tribe is like, and more about what would make your current tribe better. Here's an analogy, with a more visual way of thinking about it:
When hiking in mountainous terrain, you often find yourself trying to climb to some distant, high point. But if you continue hiking while staring at it, you'll find it appears to get further and further away. This is an optical illusion. There's a video here showing this effect with a building. It's an optical illusion, caused by the fact that objects close to us are moving at human-scale, while objects far away are moving at planet-scale. This effect can be seen with any object that's sufficiently large and far away. Drive towards the moon all you want. It's always going to be running away from you.
Don't focus on the distant object while you approach it. Instead, reference it. Focus on your immediate surroundings. See the path forward. And look back up at your destination only when you lose your sense of direction, to re-orient yourself. You can't use it as a measure of distance, because it won't appear to get any closer until you're almost there. If you spend the whole hike staring up at the sky, you're going to miss most of the scenery. Don't look up, look around. There will be plenty of time for stargazing once night falls. Hiking is a mental game. If you can tune out everything but your environment, and put one foot in front of the other, before long, you'll be two thousand feet up in the air.
This metaphor is getting a little out of hand.
When it comes to your workplace, think about ways you can make the next couple miles of your journey more comfortable. Resolve the tensions with your coworker. Advocate to change that policy you hate. The point of hiking isn't to see the mountain top. There are a dozen different ways to reach the summit. The point of hiking is to walk there. It's not easy, and it requires patience. You might even need to blaze some new trails. But at the end, you'll have an accomplishment that is uniquely yours. Food always tastes better when you've earned it.
The best view on the hike is often some random spot less than halfway up the mountain. The best job in your career is often a "for now" job at a company nobody has heard of. Enjoy those moments. Don't sprint past them. By the time you find the "best" place to watch the sunset, it might already be dark.